Memories That May Hurt Their Friends More - 1403 Words

memories that may hurt their friend more. Jettowyne, (The Compassionate Friends, 2011, November 4), stated, â€Å"Friends don’t want to say your child’s name, because they think it will make you feel bad†. Being open and asking or commenting on the child is essential in the healing process and showing support. Other important ways to comfort a friend is by acknowledging the child’s death. Crying with the parent(s). Being available for additional childcare or rides to the funeral home. It is also important to respect each parent’s grief process. The American Cancer Society (2015) reports some key ways to assist a friend when they are grieving: †¢ Acknowledge the situation. Example: I heard that your_____ died. Use the word died That will†¦show more content†¦A supportive friend will often take charge at certain moments when the parent(s) are overwhelmed and are feeling lost. Marital Partner The intimate relationship between partners is the core of one’s being. Miller (2012), states, â€Å"Our relationships with others are a central aspect in our lives†. This centrality enables one’s world views to be positive and secure. Partner’s world views are often similar and goals are shared. When parenting occurs between partners a new life is given to the couple and new hopes and dreams transpire. When a couple has a child, life is full and lasting. It is the natural progression of life that transpires as one age’s one move closer to death. The unnatural progression is when a child dies before their parents. Parents do not expect to live longer than their child. When a child dies, life and longevity are in question and the future for the parents is depressive and absent. Events such as the death of one’s child forces a new look into the future. The world view becomes altered and a fracture can occur in how each partner see’s their future. How a couple deals with the death and empathizes with each other are key factors in the strength and coping of the death. Parents who have lost a child report, there are no real words that can accurately describe what if feels like to loss a child. (The Compassionate Friend, 2011).